"Now all the people perceived the thunderings and the lightnings and the noise of the trumpet and the smoking mountain, and as [they] looked they trembled with fear and fell back and stood afar off.
19And they said to Moses, You speak to us and we will listen, but let not God speak to us, lest we die.
20And Moses said to the people, Fear not; for God has come to prove you, so that the [reverential] fear of Him may be before you, that you may not sin.
21And the people stood afar off, but Moses drew near to the thick darkness where God was." Exodus 20:18-21(Amplified Bible)
My dad is home from the hospital, following a back surgery, heart attack after surgery, and then surgery to put a stent in an artery (going to the aorta.) He's 76.
Amid all of this physical (and emotional turmoil), there is family tumult that you wouldn't believe.
Why? And further, where is God in all of this?
There will be wars (and I believe this includes family "wars" as well) until Jesus returns - it says so in Matthew 24:6 (Amplified Bible) "And you will hear of wars and rumors of wars; see that you are not frightened or troubled, for this must take place, but the end is not yet."
So, to answer the first part of my question - Wars, domestic troubles, physical and emotional problems are the result of SIN. Lest anyone think I'm pointing fingers; I'm not. I am as sinful as the next guy. I won't be perfect until I reach Heaven. It's just the way things have been since Adam and Eve took the plunge.
But that doesn't mean that we have to resign ourselves to sin. "Oh well. *Sigh*. I can't help it but be cruel to others!"
We can be better people by remembering - God first, others second, and ME LAST!
In answer to the second part of the question - Where is God -
The passage I quoted from Exodus chapter 20 tells us where He is. He's in the thick darkness. In the midst of our struggles, our despair, our heartaches - the darkest places of our lives - GOD IS THERE! Draw comfort from that today!