Chuck at Secondary Roads posted about his Sunday school lesson on Haggai the other day. He talked about priorities and he said that God wants us to put priorities in order. This speaks to me and I'll tell you why.
I have such a hard time telling people "no." Someone is always asking me for help and I think it's because I'm just always "there." While my husband was still in the hospital lying in an ICU bed, folks were e-mailing me and calling me to ask for help. Normally I'm right there to do whatever, but this was a really bad time for me. And I might add that the problems these people had were not that important in the scheme of things and there were plenty of other folks around who could give assistance.
I firmly believe that we all have to order our priorities and it's up to us to pray about it, read the Bible, and make decisions as to what has to be done first.
While people were bombarding me with trivial matters I didn't know whether my hubby would come home at all. I was teaching homeschool to four children, which involves more than teaching. I also grade papers and keep detailed records of their work. I was driving back and forth the hospital during winter storms that dumped almost a foot of snow at a time on roads that were not getting plowed or salted.
I had to say no to some and to others I didn't even get as far as a reply. I put my priorities in place. In my life, God comes first, then my husband, and then my children. From there I reach out to others. I'm sorry if that offends, but those are my priorities and people can either live with that or ignore me.