Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Tuesday's Tribute - Suffering without Complaining


I know a woman who suffered physical pain for years and years with little complaint.She is an inspiration to me when I am tempted to whine about something a little more insignificant than her pain.

The women above are my paternal grandmother (left) and my mom (right). My mom lived with her mother and father-in-law for nearly a year after marrying my dad. Even then, she lived in basically the same house because she and Dad lived in the back half of an old farmhouse while Grandma and Grandpa lived in the other half.

Not sure I could do that, especially live with my in-laws while my husband finished serving in the Navy. To top things off, Mom and Dad were married for two weeks, Dad shipped off and left Mom with Grandma and Grandpa (in Indiana away from her native Massachusetts) for that year, and Mom found out she was pregnant with Susan. Wow.

They finally moved to their own house when I was a year old and live there still. Sometime when I was a teenager, Mom acquired a small hernia that she lived with and didn't complain about. It would cost money to fix it and then there was her fear of surgery too.

Nearly thirty years later, Mom was still living with the hernia and none of us had a clue as to the pain she went through daily. She was sick a lot in the last few years and we all thought she had the flu or ate something that didn't agree with her.

Then she strangulated this November. She nearly died. She had the surgery she should have had many years ago but this time it was an emergency situation and very risky. We all prayed and supported her while she lay in pain.

Mom lived through the surgery and spent almost a month in the hospital and another in a nursing facility. She's home now and taking physical therapy, doing exercises and getting stronger.

My mom is an inspiration to me because I don't remember hearing her complain about her pain. She just took it and went on.

I'm not saying I'd refuse to have surgery when I needed it, but I'd love to have the resolve to take my pain to Jesus more and stop taking it to others so much.

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4 comments:

Deb said...

what a great tribute to your brave mother! i think we could all learn a lesson from her. it's SO easy to complain (at least for me, it is!).

Jay @halftime lessons said...

Wow...what a great story of strength. It may be too much to hope that we can be so brave...I sure hope I can find it in me, personally.

Thanks so much for sharing this with us.
Jay

Jolly Mom said...

What an excellent and inspiring post! Your mom seems like a wonderful and strong woman that we should all look to for inspiration.

Cindy said...

Wonderful tribute to your mother. She sounds like a very special lady.